Thursday, March 13, 2025

 

PART 4.

Perfect Love Casts Out Fear: Seeking Love from the True Source

Love is the most powerful force in existence, yet so many people struggle to fully embrace it. Why? Because fear stands as a major obstacle, keeping individuals from giving and receiving love in its truest form. If we want to experience love as it was meant to be, we must seek it from the ultimate source—YAHWEH, the Creator of love itself.

Eradicating Fear: The Key to Perfect Love

The Bible tells us in 1 John 4:18 that "perfect love casts out fear." This means that fear and love cannot fully coexist. When fear is present, love is hindered. Many people hesitate to pursue love because they are waiting for a "perfect" situation—one where all their life circumstances are neatly arranged before they commit to loving fully. Some common excuses include:

  • “I have to get my finances in order first.”

  • “I need to finish school before I think about relationships.”

  • “I don’t have the time to invest in love right now.”

  • “I need to buy a house first before I settle down.”

While these may seem like responsible considerations, they are often rooted in fear rather than wisdom. People want to eliminate every possible risk before opening their hearts, but the truth is, love is always a leap of faith. There will never be a "perfect" time or situation to love; there will only be a willing heart.

Barriers to Love and Intimacy

Fear manifests in various ways, creating walls between people and making genuine intimacy difficult. These fears are often projected not only toward others but even toward God Himself, keeping us from fully experiencing His unconditional love. Below are some of the major fears that act as barriers to love:

1. Fear of Abandonment (Mostly in Women)

Many women struggle with the deep-seated fear that they will be left or forgotten. This fear can stem from past relationships, childhood trauma, or societal narratives that condition women to believe that love is fragile. As a result, some may develop defense mechanisms, such as emotional detachment or clinginess, both of which prevent true connection.

2. Fear of Rejection (Mostly in Men)

Men often battle the fear of not being enough—whether financially, emotionally, or physically. Rejection, particularly in romantic relationships, can wound a man’s sense of identity. Because of this fear, many men avoid expressing their emotions or pursuing love wholeheartedly, choosing instead to protect themselves through emotional withdrawal, pride, or excessive focus on material success.


3. Fear of Humiliation

No one wants to be embarrassed or feel exposed. Love requires vulnerability, and vulnerability opens the door to potential shame or ridicule. Many people choose to play it safe rather than risk the pain of being misunderstood or judged. This fear often leads to a reluctance to express feelings, admit mistakes, or show affection openly.

4. Fear of Pain or Potential Pain

Love carries the risk of hurt. Some people refuse to love deeply because they have been hurt in the past and don't want to go through that pain again. This can lead to self-sabotage, avoidance of deep connections, or an overly critical attitude toward relationships. The problem is that pain is not exclusive to love—it is a part of life. Refusing to love because of the risk of pain is like refusing to live because of the risk of death.

5. Laziness

Surprisingly, one of the most overlooked barriers to love is sheer laziness. Love requires effort, patience, and intentionality. Many people want the rewards of love without the work it takes to cultivate and sustain it. Laziness in love can manifest as a reluctance to communicate, failing to nurture relationships, or expecting love to happen effortlessly. True love is active, not passive.



Breaking Free from Fear and Embracing Love

If we desire to experience the fullness of love, we must first seek it from the true source—YAHWEH. His love is perfect, unconditional, and fearless. When we allow His love to transform us, fear loses its grip, and we become free to love and be loved without hesitation.

To overcome these barriers, consider these steps:

  1. Acknowledge your fears – Identify the specific fears that are hindering you from experiencing love.

  2. Surrender them to God – Trust that His perfect love is greater than any fear you have.

  3. Take action despite fear – Don’t wait for the "perfect" moment. Love is a decision, not just a feeling.

  4. Embrace vulnerability – Allow yourself to be seen, known, and loved as you truly are.

  5. Commit to love actively – Love requires daily effort. Invest time and energy into building deeper connections.

Final Thought: Love Bravely

Love is not for the faint of heart—it is for the courageous. It requires faith, risk, and a willingness to embrace the unknown. But when we anchor ourselves in the love of Yahweh, we gain the strength to love fearlessly. So don’t wait. Don’t let fear hold you back. Love boldly, knowing that true love is found in Him.


KELVIN L. STUBBLEFIELD IS A GRADUATE OF Middle Tennessee State University IN 1983.

HE IS THE AUTHOR OF “AMERICAN REPROBATE: GOD'S CURSE AND RESTORATION OF THE AFRICAN AMERICAN”. THAT WAS PUBLISHED IN 2012.

HE AND HIS WIFE SANDRIA, CO-FOUNDED “BIGSTUB CREATIONS” IN 2018. We are a vehicle for creativity! Our mission is to encourage individuals to utilize their artistic expression through the performing arts.

He has recently published his second book in November 2023.

STAYING HUMAN: EXAMINING THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN GOD, MAN AND ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE”.

Biblical, Spiritual, and Social Analysis and Solutions to Black Americans and Mainstream AMERICAN Dysgenics, Narcissistic Self Indulgence, and the Current Politics of Self Annihilation. Amidst the dawning of Artificial General intelligence and Trans-Humanity.

YOU CAN PURCHASE HIS PUBLICATIONS OR LEARN ABOUT OUR NEXT PROJECT; YOU CAN VISIT THE FOLLOWING WEBSITES.

https://www.klstubblefield.com/

Staying Human

https://www.bigstubcreations.com/

https://loveintheblack.blogspot.com/

GENTILE WARS PT 2,3,4

https://lovingmyhumans.blogspot.com

GENTILE WARS PT 1

https://kelvinstubblefield.substack.com/publish/post/14776577

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